Changing Lives Through the Art and Science of Professional Coaching

26
Sep

0

5 Habits of Confident Coaches

For many of us, our ultimate goal is to become a masterful coach so that when we are working with our clients (employees, colleagues, team members), we feel capable, confident and connected not just to the person we are coaching but to our intuition.  So, what are the 5 habits that create that confidence? And how can you start bringing those 5 habits into your practice?

 

#1 ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR VALUE. 

Number one is to acknowledge your value. It doesn’t come naturally to recognize your worth, but it is something that you can grow into, consciously. When I first started coaching, I used coaching to help individuals figure out how they were going to get a project done or better manage their time.  Initially, I used coaching as just another tool in my tool kit to help people figure out how to solve a particular challenge.  While I thought it was great that I could help my clients come up with their own solutions, I didn’t fully understand the impact it had.  But as I started to experience coaching more (as a client and a coach), I discovered there was more value in these coaching sessions than I realized.

Fast forward to today…..

I absolutely stand by the value of coaching and my value as a coach.  We serve to hold space for others, to allow them to become fully thinking and emotional human beings, to bring what is lurking in the subconscious forward and once it’s there, we support our clients to  take action.  I have witnessed the personal and professional growth that has come about because of coaching sessions.  Finding solutions, solving challenges and creating opportunities is great; but to me, the biggest value is the personal development that happens. Coaching helps human beings develop their capability and trained coaches help people grow.  So, to be a confident coach, know your value and know the value of your coaching sessions.

 

#2 TRUST YOUR EXPERTISE. 

Number two, trust your expertise. Like many new coaches, when I first started coaching my team, I would come away from my coaching conversations feeling disappointed that I didn’t come up with the absolute best question to ask or perhaps wondering if I missed some clue during the session that might have held the opportunity for a mind-shifting Ah-ha moment.  While the people I coached would let me know how helpful each session was, I knew that the sessions were not as good as they could be.  At times, I even doubted if I was good enough.

During this initial phase of self-doubt, I was so focused on the skills and capabilities I lacked that I lost sight of my own unique expertise that I could bring to my sessions.  How could I fully show up for my client when I was internally focused on my own short comings? Eventually, I realized that there’s something special and unique about each and every one of us and that we are at our best when we draw upon those strengths and talents. Some coaches like to integrate their background in psychology or behavior sciences.  I like to integrate what I know about business and career transitions.  I also love drawing upon my experience in sports and using symbolism and analogies as I communicate.  I show up with an enthusiastic and optimistic energy.  I bring all of that into my coaching sessions, and those are my natural talents.

Now, you might be someone who easily distinguishes speech patterns, pitch or cadence. You might be someone who is really good at picking up on shifting energy, so your natural talent is seizing the coachable moment around those shifting emotions. Or maybe your natural talent is that you create short powerful questions that help your clients gain crystal clarity.

So, to be a confident coach, you need to know and trust your own expertise.  Don’t think, “I’m not good enough because I’m not great at reflecting back to the client,” or “I’m not intuitive enough.” Know that your talents are enough and draw upon them naturally.  Doing this will allow you to show up fully for your client.  Confident coaches focus on what they are great at and what makes a coaching session with “them” special and unique. Number two is trust your expertise.

 

#3 GET CENTERED.  

Now, I’m going to be honest with you. Not all confident coaches meditate.  But the third habit of a confident coach is honing their ability to clear the mind, tune into their client and be fully present.  In order for you to really connect with your clients every time you coach and respond intuitively, it’s incredibly important that you know how to turn shut down your brain-chatter and hold space for your client. For some, this comes naturally.  Others may find they need a bit of practice.  Getting centered is a tried-and-true way that coaches can show up blank to a client session.  For me, I like to do a few cycles of square breathing (inhale 4 counts, hold 4 counts, exhale 4 counts and hold the exhale 4 counts, repeating the cycle 2 or 3 times).  This simple exercise helps me quiet my mind and set my focus.  You may prefer to stare at a photo, gaze at a candle or simply close your eyes and let your thoughts move through your mind like a smooth flowing river.  Regardless of what method you choose, create a daily practice of clearing the mind.  If you begin a coaching session with background noise in your mind (email, reports, judgments, your own ideas, to do list) and you haven’t taken the time to pause and clear out first, then your coaching session is not going to be as good as it could be. Employ the practice of getting centered each day, however that works best for you, so that skill comes to you easily when you’re about to do a coaching session.  Habit #3: get centered.

 

#4 GET RID OF THE TIP SHEET.

I know, it’s ironic that one of the items on the tip sheet is ‘Get rid of the Tip Sheet’.   When I was first starting out, I kept a list of Powerful Questions right next to me during every coaching sessions.  If I wasn’t sure what to ask, I would look down at my list and pick one that seemed most appropriate.  Looking back, I can see how these questions were a bit like training wheels giving me a sense of security and providing the opportunity to try out a few variations until I found my own voice.  In some ways they helped me get started and in other ways they held me back.

It’s a wonderful thing if you can ditch the tips/tools during the coaching session and learn to trust your intuition.  Even though you might build a clumsy version of a question, what you gain is the ability to connect much more deeply with your client.   You will see it come out in your coaching sessions in really beautiful ways.  You will also learn to improvise and respond intuitively which will make your sessions more powerful and develop your skills more quickly.  Not quite ready to fly without a net?  If you still use tips and cheat sheets during your coaching session, be willing to coach without relying on them for one or two sessions.  You will quickly realize you have the skills to do it on your own.  You might also quickly realize any gaps in your training. Have you forgotten a specific technique?  Is there a skill you need to polish?   When you refer back to your training materials, try and do what confident coaches do and reference these tips outside of the coaching session.  The only exception to this rule would be using a coaching model (at Coach Training Alliance we use The Simple Coaching Model).  The coaching model provides a framework for your coaching conversations; we use the same model with every single coaching session.  Having the Simple Coaching Model front and center is a great way to ensure your coaching conversations are productive and stay on track.  So, the next time you have a coaching conversation- ditch the Tip Sheet, show up authentically and respond intuitively to your client.

 

#5 BE CURIOUS. 

The final habit of a confident coach is being curious.  We have people coming into our Coach Training Programs – some of them have been coaching informally for 10-15 years-and they bring with them a learning mindset where they are open to new possibilities, willing to explore new perspectives and are able to go even deeper in their training.   As coaches, we can always go deeper in our training and integrate this new capability or perspective in our coaching sessions.  However, lifelong learning isn’t only about acquiring knowledge, skills or polishing techniques (although those will certainly help you become a more capable coach), we are constantly presented with informal learning opportunities.  For me it is both enlightening and rewarding to ask, “What did you find most valuable today?”   I love this question because it serves to reinforce for the client what they got out of the session and helps me gain a better understanding of how the session (and which parts) impacted my client the most.  More to the point, confident coaches are curious.  They continually learn about themselves, learn about their value, appreciate the wisdom of their clients and because of this are able to sponge up an abundance of thoughts, perspectives, ideas, and discoveries as they co-create and collaborate.  Learning is about being genuinely interested, curious, and willing to explore something new.  “How would this training make me a better coach?”  “What would happen if I tried this approach?”  “Where does this client really want to go?”  Being curious opens the possibility for coaches to develop through the many formal and informal learning opportunities around them.

So, number 5: Be Curious.

 

WRAP-UP 

In summary, those are the 5 habits of Confident Coaches. Hopefully these habits will serve you well as you forge ahead helping your clients:

  1. Acknowledge your value.
  2. Trust your expertise.
  3. Get centered.
  4. Get rid of the Tip Sheet.
  5. Be Curious.

Do those 5 things, and you will quickly become a confident coach. Amazing things will happen for you because you’ll be putting yourself out there in such a powerful way and helping and serving so many people while trusting your intuition and giving value.

 

About the Author: Holly Hutchinson is a Certified Human Capital Coach and Wellness Coach whose been practicing since 2008.  Holly’s passion is positive growth and lifelong learning.  Her experience includes international trade and marketing as well as system sales into the Fortune 500.  Holly’s focus at CTA is the growth of emerging programs for trade associations, organizational coaching deployment and CTA’s yoga programs.  In addition to her work at CTA, Holly is a competitive athlete and serves on several non-profit boards.  Holly is married with 2 children and is a graduate of the University of California at Berkeley.

AudioGenerator™

Put the power of the human voice on your coaching practice’s website and give prospective clients an opportunity to hear you and experience your coaching style before they meet you.
Buy Now

×
eZine Publishing

 

Ali Brown has compiled the most complete guide detailing eZine publishing from formatting, publishing, promoting, and making money on your publication. Learn More

×
eCommerce Shopping

LearnMore Systems provides an easy-to-use platform that plugs in to your website, no programming required. Accept major credit cards, manage clients, prospects, and affiliates, and deliver your digital and eBook products seamlessly.
Learn More

×
Client Attraction System™

More Clients in Record Time… Every Time.

Client Attraction System

Attracting a consistent stream of new clients begins with understanding what interests your ideal clients, what their major struggles are, and what will make them buy your services. Then, it means taking serious action on it.


  1. Make Client Attraction a priority
  2. Strategize your unique positioning
  3. Craft your client profile
  4. Construct your compelling marketing message
  5. Package what you know and do
  6. Create PULL marketing materials
  7. Get out there in a BIG way
  8. Create your Marketing PIE
  9. Become a master of Closing the sale
  10. Implement systems for consistent action and results

Get Fabienne Frederickson’s Client Attraction System™ and see the results-driven home study courses and breakthrough systems at work.

Buy Now
×
Client Winning Websites and Blogs

Client Winning Websites & Blogs

Discover the secrets to getting your message heard by thousands and inspiring people to invest in their bright futures with your coaching programs. Coach Training Alliance Certified Coach Rhonda Hess cracked the code with this fun blueprint to help you create a client-winning website that quickly builds your list and enrolls new clients for you!

Learn More
×
Business Building Blocks

 

Business Building BlocksLearn the secrets to running your coaching business from Ali Brown, millionaire coach and Inc. 500 CEO. Get back to the basics and watch your coaching business thrive. Learn More

×
Boost Your Biz Training Program

Boost Your Biz | Coach Training Alliance

One Month to More Clients, Cash, & Collaborations in Just 30 Minutes a Day

  1. Raise your fees up to 40%, without damaging client relationships
  2. Discover 3 simple ways to know if you’re charging enough (and what to do about it if you’re not)
  3. How to let your prospective clients create their own “return on investment” reasons for hiring you
  4. What 3 specific questions get your clients to tell you what they REALLY want and will PAY for
  5. Which questions magically motivate your client to say “yes” instead of “let me think about it”
  6. Why being “expensive” makes you more desirable (even if you don’t have years of experience or lots of clients yet)
  7. 23 Bonus tips, scripts, and templates that answer your toughest pricing questions!
Learn More
×
Your Highly Profitable Niche

Your Highly Profitable Niche

What’s my niche? If you haven’t decided yet or you’d like to hear “yes!” more often when enrolling clients, Your Highly Profitable Niche is for you. Discover how to niche so you stand out in the crowd and know exactly what your ideal clients will buy from you. You’ll love this easy system — created by Rhonda Hess, co-author of the Coach Training Accelerator — that helps you niche with confidence, master your marketing messages, and command top fees with a unique “tribe” you’ll love.

Buy Now
×
The Coaches Console™ - FREE Demo

 

The Coaches Console

Take the stress out of the business and marketing of your practice.

 

The Coaches Console™ is the complete online system to streamline all of your administrative, business, and marketing needs together into one command center.

SPECIAL OFFER

As a Friend of CTA you receive a special discount on the monthly fee of The Coaches Console™

Learn More
×
Exploring Coaching

Explore Coaching | Coach Training Alliance

Discover your coaching niche with Coach Training Alliance’s Exploring Coaching handbook. 10 dynamic coaches share their experiences, coaching tools, and their path to becoming successful following five critical steps.

Get the Handbook!
×
Coaching Compass

Coaching Compass | Coach Training Alliance

Coach Training Alliance’s Coaching Compass helps you stay on course with quick coaching tools, tips and insights for building your coaching practice and growing your client base.

×
Coach Training Accelerator™ Self Study

Coach Training Accelerator

Accelerate your career as a coach and maximize your potential with a 20-lesson multimedia training program. The Coach Training Accelerator™ is the blueprint for new and established coaches alike to build a successful, profitable practice.

Fast Track Success
×
FREE Become a Coach Teleclass

Join Certified Coach Lisa Pisano for a free coaching TeleClass and learn how to build a fulfilling and sustainable practice.

Sign Up for the FREE Becoming A Coach Teleclass!


Join World Class Certified Coach Lisa Pisano And Discover The Inside Scoop On Becoming A CTA Certified Coach In This Free Workshop!

×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Weight Loss

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Weight Loss

The Art & Science of What Works, What Doesn’t and How to Be a Hero to Your Clients

Are you ready to distinguish yourself? Integrating weight loss coaching into your practice is a perfect–and much in demand–value added service.

Discover the best weight loss tools to place in your Coach’s Toolbox. Help your clients AND yourself at the same time!

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches looking to include weight loss issues into their coaching practice or wanting to specialize, exclusively, in the coaching of weight loss clients.

The program includes a comprehensive 131-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs. Jonny speaks candidly and confidently about what really works and provides you with the tools to really make difference in the lives of your clients.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Johnny Bowden | Coach Training Alliance

Jonny Bowden, Ph.D.

Diet Bootcamp Trainer and Coach
×
Are You Coachable? Quiz

Are You Coachable? Quiz

Are you nurturing the right leads? Add our FREE client acquisition Are You Coachable Quiz and ensure qualified prospective clients are contacting you for coaching. A simple coaching tool and fully automated assessment —at no charge—with our compliments.

Get the FREE Quiz!
×
Fill Your Coaching Practice

Fill Your Coaching Practice

Designed specifically for coaches by coaches. Discover how to implement multiple “low-cost” and “no cost” strategies with this step-by-step proven system for winning new clients.

This self-paced, self-study 8-week course, gives you the coaching tools you can use to build your practice with little or no effort.

 

You’ll master:

Get your copy of Fill Your Coaching Practice here.

×
Success Without Selling

Success Without Selling

Read, listen, and learn the strategies, techniques, and detailed formulas used by successful coaches who hate to sell. Gain high visibility, greater credibility, and dramatically increase your income–without selling–using the coaching tools and resources you already have.

Please contact us at 888.432.4121 or Support@CoachTrainingAlliance.com to obtain your copy of Fill Your Coaching Practice

×
Practice Pay Solutions

Practice Pay Solutions integrates seamlessly with your website as an easy-to-use eCommerce system that doesn’t require any programming. Accept credit cards, setup your client and prospect management system, track affiliates, and deliver digital products and eBooks.

Learn More
×
MPG Coaching

Coach Will Matthews describes the benefits of becoming an ICF member and his years of experience as an ICF coach. Explore the opportunities for continued growth and promotion, and advance your career within your community.

Learn More
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Professionals

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Professionals

The Art & Science of Working with Dynamic, Knowledgeable and Coachable Clients

Business professionals pursue personal development as vigorously as they pursue professional advancement. There’s no “hard sell” needed to bring active and motivated professionals into your practice.

What is needed —and ultimately required to successfully connect with this affluent market—is overcoming the hidden obstacles.

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches looking to add professional clients to their coaching practice as well as those wanting to add cutting edge techniques to their coaching toolbox.

The program includes a comprehensive 104-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Success Strategies For Coaching Professionals

David Krueger, M.D.

Dean of Curriculum, CTA Certified Coach and CCP Mentor Coach
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Wellness

Sage & Scholar's Guide | Wellness Coaching

The Art & Science of Stepping Up Your Practice with the Next Evolution in Coaching

Wellness is about how simple choices profoundly affect our lives. It’s a $500 billion industry that is contributing high returns on investment for coaches and their clients.

Wellness integrates mind, body and spirit with a balanced flow of energy… and isn’t that what coaching is all about?

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches looking to add wellness coaching to their practice as well as those wanting to enjoy strategies, techniques and lasting improvements in mind, body, and spirit.

The program includes A ROAD MAP™ for Wellness Workbook™ including 19 tools and exercises designed to guide you to coach empowered wellness.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Success Strategies For Coaching Professionals

David Krueger, M.D.

Dean of Curriculum, CTA Certified Coach and CCP Mentor Coach
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Executives

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Executives

The Art & Science of Enriching the Lives of Corporate Leaders and Their Teams

Success is shattering the wonderful life many executives thought they were building. They are dynamic, affluent, high achievers AND they are losing the very things they hold most dear… their families, their health, and their peace of mind.

The secrets top earners in the coaching field have discovered are revealed in this dynamic multimedia program. You learn how to blend specific techniques and artful subtleties that produce dramatic results for your clients and lead to huge monetary rewards for you. The knowledge you gain in this program will enable you to charge higher fees and enjoy longer term clients.

Who Is This Program For?

Established coaches looking to add executive clients to their coaching practice and Executive Coaches seeking to become extraordinarily successful.

The program includes a comprehensive 112-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Corporate Teams

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Corporate Teams

The Art & Science of Producing Maximum Benefits and Revenues for Corporations

Corporate coaching is one of the hottest specialties in coaching today! For the first time, we’ll take you inside corporations big and small to uncover what they really want and what they desperately need.

In this six-session process you learn field-tested techniques and never before revealed strategies for structuring your own team coaching process. The results from this system are nothing short of extraordinary and are impressing even the toughest CEOs.

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches considering corporate coaching as a specialty or Business Coaches looking to develop their niche in coaching corporate teams.

The program includes a comprehensive 112-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Singles

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Singles

The Art & Science of Creating Exciting, Full and Vibrant Lives for Men and Women

How would you like to expand your practice and coach clients through what can be the most challenging time in their lives?

You can now learn the specific strategies for attracting singles clients into your practice. Gain a unique understanding of what singles want, what they need, and how to coach them to achieve both.

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches looking to add single clients to their coaching practice or wanting to totally specialize in the coaching singles.

The Program Includes:

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Laurie Cameron | Coach Training Alliance

Laurie Cameron

Certified Coach and CTA Mentor Coach
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Couples

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Couples

The Art & Science of Thriving, Not Just Surviving, in Committed Relationships

Are you ready to help people make sustainable changes in their most important and precious relationship? The need for skilled and talented professionals in the world of relationships has never been greater.

Now you can learn what works, what doesn’t and how to provide the “know-how” to change a highly conflicted relationship. Be the catalyst that transforms a relationship riddled with resentment and disappointment to a healthy, joyful, lasting relationship.

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches considering relationship coaching as a specialty or Relationship Coaches looking to develop their niche in coaching couples.

The program includes a comprehensive 128-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Dr. Jackie Black| Coach Training Alliance

Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC

Certified Coach and CTA Mentor Coach
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Groups

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Groups

The Art & Science of Designing, Enrolling and Facilitating Small Coaching Groups

Leverage your time and help more people make measurable and sustainable changes in their lives than you ever could coaching one client at a time. Coaching groups enables you to be a leader in the field and deliver the most highly profitable coaching service at the same time.

Discover what it really takes, where to find your ideal participants, what to avoid, and how to be an elegant and masterful group coach.

Who Is This Program For?

Coaches looking to touch the lives of many more people while adding a highly lucrative revenue generator for enhancing their coaching practice and expanding their circle of influence.

The program includes a comprehensive 114-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Dr. Jackie Black| Coach Training Alliance

Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC

Certified Coach and CTA Mentor Coach
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Career Transitions

Sage & Scholars Guide |Coaching Career Transitions

The Art & Science of Guiding Your Clients to Their ‘Right Work’ and a Better Life

Downsizing, mergers, and acquisitions are commonplace in today’s working world. These, along with the strong desire for a better life, are all factors in the skyrocketing demand for Career Coaching.

Statistics show one-in-four workers are currently dissatisfied with their jobs and 60% of workers plan to leave their jobs within the next two years. Add to this… the average person is likely to change careers at least 3-5 times throughout their life.

Who Is This Program For?

Any coach wishing to specialize in Career Coaching or wanting to better assist their existing clients to find a more rewarding and fulfilling career.

The program includes a comprehensive 105-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

Deborah Brown-Volkman, PCC

Career Coaching Mentor
×
Sage & Scholar’s Guide® - Coaching Assessments

Sage & Scholars Guide | Coaching Assessments

The Art & Science of Opening Doors to Success and Moving Your Clients Forward

Assessments have a magical power to help coaches gain immediate insight and access to their clients… not just in business but in all types of relationships.

Knowing which assessment to use can be a dramatic challenge for any coach. This program unlocks the mysteries of assessments and helps you understand how they work and when to use them. Gain an instant bond with your clients and instantly increase your coaching revenues at the same time.

Who Is This Program For?

Any coach wanting to better understand and serve their clients as well as grow their coaching business while increasing revenues.

The program includes a comprehensive 112-page manual in an attractive 3-ring binder, plus three audio CDs.

Order Today for Just $99 (Save $198.00!)

Buy Now


Meet Your Expert Guide

David Meyer | Coach Training Alliance

David Meyer

CTA Certified Coach, CCP and HCC Mentor Coach
×