Tuesday, August 30. 2005
You Are An Imposter!
Do I have your attention? Yes, you are an imposter- just like the executives you are coaching (or wish you could be coaching).
I’ve spoken with so many coaches that feel they don’t have the background or credentials to coach high level executives. They say they haven’t lived in the corporate world and therefore don’t believe they can (or should) work with executives. Dare they say that they feel like an imposter? Here’s my response- hooey!
When I was appointed Vice President of a Fortune 100 company at a very young age I kept waiting for the memo from my boss that said- “Just kidding! Do you think you are really V.P. material?!” Yes, I was that insecure. I felt like an imposter. Guess what, many (if not most) executives out there feel the same way.
But what does that have to do with you being an imposter? Everything!
Your executive clients (or prospects) are just as insecure than you may be feeling. They feel inadequate, overwhelmed and in over their heads. They don’t feel like they belong and/or deserve what they have achieved.
Rest assured, these people and the companies they work for need you!
Knowing this important fact should put you on equal footing with your executive clients. This should liberate you from feeling like an imposter. Be bold in marketing your services and know that what you bring to the table is sorely needed by countless executives and managers worldwide.
Carpe diem!
I’ve spoken with so many coaches that feel they don’t have the background or credentials to coach high level executives. They say they haven’t lived in the corporate world and therefore don’t believe they can (or should) work with executives. Dare they say that they feel like an imposter? Here’s my response- hooey!
When I was appointed Vice President of a Fortune 100 company at a very young age I kept waiting for the memo from my boss that said- “Just kidding! Do you think you are really V.P. material?!” Yes, I was that insecure. I felt like an imposter. Guess what, many (if not most) executives out there feel the same way.
But what does that have to do with you being an imposter? Everything!
Your executive clients (or prospects) are just as insecure than you may be feeling. They feel inadequate, overwhelmed and in over their heads. They don’t feel like they belong and/or deserve what they have achieved.
Rest assured, these people and the companies they work for need you!
Knowing this important fact should put you on equal footing with your executive clients. This should liberate you from feeling like an imposter. Be bold in marketing your services and know that what you bring to the table is sorely needed by countless executives and managers worldwide.
Carpe diem!
Monday, August 29. 2005
Impeccable Communication (Part Two)
Show up and be present is the first step in impeccable communication with others. Staying current and checking motivation are foundations for the next piece – where we put our attention.
With our critical minds, it’s so easy to see the glass as half full, project negativity into everything, look only for what’s wrong. If we believe in a world of hurt, that is where our attention and our reality will stay. We always have the choice to hear and see things differently.
Pay Attention to What Has Heart and Meaning
Pick through words and non-verbal cues to find the gift in every conversation. Some fact revealed about the other person or yourself will give you greater understanding. Or, with just hearing and being heard, something in you may be healed. Getting the gift may require humbling yourself, stepping out of your “position” to hear things from another perspective.
- Listen
Listen and keep listening with the depth that you wish for when you’re speaking. Listen for the impact of your words. Pause often to allow for a response rather than holding forth. If you apply this to coaching, you’ve achieved some mastery. Now apply it to every conversation.
- Stay with it
Even if the words seem harsh, keep your focus on honoring and respecting both yourself and the person you’re talking with. Stay in dialogue until both of you are finished.
- Let go of interpretations
Let words wash over and past you knowing they will only hurt if you hold onto your interpretations. Check out your assumptions with the other person.
Truth lives in our hearts. When we receive what has meaning into our hearts and convey what has meaning from there, we can tell the truth and also honor the other.
Copyright © Bubbling Well – Rhonda Hess
All rights in all media reserved.
With our critical minds, it’s so easy to see the glass as half full, project negativity into everything, look only for what’s wrong. If we believe in a world of hurt, that is where our attention and our reality will stay. We always have the choice to hear and see things differently.
Pay Attention to What Has Heart and Meaning
Pick through words and non-verbal cues to find the gift in every conversation. Some fact revealed about the other person or yourself will give you greater understanding. Or, with just hearing and being heard, something in you may be healed. Getting the gift may require humbling yourself, stepping out of your “position” to hear things from another perspective.
- Listen
Listen and keep listening with the depth that you wish for when you’re speaking. Listen for the impact of your words. Pause often to allow for a response rather than holding forth. If you apply this to coaching, you’ve achieved some mastery. Now apply it to every conversation.
- Stay with it
Even if the words seem harsh, keep your focus on honoring and respecting both yourself and the person you’re talking with. Stay in dialogue until both of you are finished.
- Let go of interpretations
Let words wash over and past you knowing they will only hurt if you hold onto your interpretations. Check out your assumptions with the other person.
Truth lives in our hearts. When we receive what has meaning into our hearts and convey what has meaning from there, we can tell the truth and also honor the other.
Copyright © Bubbling Well – Rhonda Hess
All rights in all media reserved.
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