Wednesday, June 7. 2006
Impeccable Communication (Part Four)
by Rhonda Hess
By learning to be open to or detached from outcome we bring a profound freedom to our lives. With it we’re able to operate from a place of strength, compassion and tolerance. Without it, our communication is limited by the only position we know to hold onto.
Be Open to Outcome, Not Attached to Outcome is the last part of the Impeccable Communication series. To review the first three parts, see the Coaching from Center archives.
Attachment causes us to lose our sense of humor and flexibility. Think about any outcome you feel attachment to. It sits like a stone in your belly or throat. Now release your grip on it and feel the difference in your body. Detachment brings a sense of expansion and new opportunities.
The word ‘detached’ sounds aloof and uncaring. However, detachment is defined as “the capacity to care deeply from an objective place”. It clears the path of obstacles so that the travelers on the road to understanding can walk without stumbling.
- Without Expectation
In conversation, honor the other person by hearing their response in the moment without the constraint of your expectations or assumptions.
- With Trust
Become comfortable with uncertainty. Trust that whatever happens is the only way it could have happened. In everything there is a gift.
- Believe in change
Everything that is alive keeps moving. Just when you think that the sentence is final, along comes an ellipse, a semi-colon – something more. Allow the evolution of the conversation and the relationship.
Voice to Voice
Impeccable communication is accomplished in real time where the parties can respond to each other in the moment. Anything that carries an emotional load should be spoken, if possible, in person. Hiding behind written words, especially through email, will likely create more clean-up work in the relationship because of the likelihood of misinterpretation. Pick up the phone. Speak your truth.
May all of your communication be impeccable!
Rhonda specializes in coaching new coaches, women entrepreneurs and small business owners through Bubbling Well Inc., a coaching practice she founded in 1999. She helps both new and experienced coaches find their "growing edge" and true success in coaching.
By learning to be open to or detached from outcome we bring a profound freedom to our lives. With it we’re able to operate from a place of strength, compassion and tolerance. Without it, our communication is limited by the only position we know to hold onto.
Be Open to Outcome, Not Attached to Outcome is the last part of the Impeccable Communication series. To review the first three parts, see the Coaching from Center archives.
Attachment causes us to lose our sense of humor and flexibility. Think about any outcome you feel attachment to. It sits like a stone in your belly or throat. Now release your grip on it and feel the difference in your body. Detachment brings a sense of expansion and new opportunities.
The word ‘detached’ sounds aloof and uncaring. However, detachment is defined as “the capacity to care deeply from an objective place”. It clears the path of obstacles so that the travelers on the road to understanding can walk without stumbling.
- Without Expectation
In conversation, honor the other person by hearing their response in the moment without the constraint of your expectations or assumptions.
- With Trust
Become comfortable with uncertainty. Trust that whatever happens is the only way it could have happened. In everything there is a gift.
- Believe in change
Everything that is alive keeps moving. Just when you think that the sentence is final, along comes an ellipse, a semi-colon – something more. Allow the evolution of the conversation and the relationship.
Voice to Voice
Impeccable communication is accomplished in real time where the parties can respond to each other in the moment. Anything that carries an emotional load should be spoken, if possible, in person. Hiding behind written words, especially through email, will likely create more clean-up work in the relationship because of the likelihood of misinterpretation. Pick up the phone. Speak your truth.
May all of your communication be impeccable!
Rhonda specializes in coaching new coaches, women entrepreneurs and small business owners through Bubbling Well Inc., a coaching practice she founded in 1999. She helps both new and experienced coaches find their "growing edge" and true success in coaching.
Rhonda is a graduate of Coach U, a past board member of the Denver Coach Federation and is certified by CTA and ICF. She co-designed the Certified Coach Program and co-authored the Coach Training Accelerator with Will Craig.
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